I am thankful for those who have posted so quickly. It is very helpful to me to get as many opinions as soon as possible. I have not posted anything new so everyone could get a chance to reply to the first post. Since that kind of, not worked, I'm just going to do my own thing now which I guess I should have done in the first place. Remember that there will be polls on the right, if you would so please respond.
Alright everyone, here is the question of the day:
Why do you think, since we consider ourselves much more open these days, people are so hesitant to talk about sex with their children?
Fear drives the world around controlling most actions people make. It is a sad but true statement, we as people are to much afraid of our own body's. We would rather have some school "professional" talk to our children than us because most parents feel inadequate or ill prepared in teaching their child about sex. Well if parents are too afraid to talk about sex how do you expect the child to be any more open to the subject? So if both parent and child are to afraid to talk, how is it parents get upset when their sixteen year old comes home pregnant when they did not even teach her the difference between a condom and a condominium? Parents have to "grow-up" and realize their child is not the same little munch-kin running about the house playing pirates. This growing up means taking the time to lay out the basics of sex so their child does not end up on next season of "16 and pregnant." This can be done by simply letting the child and the parent (yes both sides have to talk if either hopes to learn anything!) know that your/their door is always open. Something little like this can be the ultimate ice-breaker: everything gets easier with time! So that first seemly awkward sentence like, "Hey son/Dad can we have a talk?" May seem daunting at first, but after you say that little line, the worst is already behind you.
ReplyDeletesame reason it wasn't talked about when were not as "open". its awkward. Also i think parents just figure their kids already know from tv, school and wherever else. and kids that are close to their parents and feel comfortable enough to ask in like 70's might have asked their parents about sex as a reliable resource, but now you can just google and not have the awkward talk. Biggest point i think is that parents now and kids just think like, ohh their supposed to be having sex and its more an issue whenever they think their kid isn't having sex. a few parents at least. or parents are to brief about it and just touch on the issue and drop it so they can say they had the talk. "you were you having sex that day when i came home early from work?" "uhhhh.." "okay glad we had this talk" that sort of thing. idk, not alot of input
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